RUTH: Welcome to another programme in the series, 'Say It Again.' I'm Ruth and
with me, I have Aries. Today, we are continuing looking at polite ways
of asking permission and also looking at polite ways of refusing
permission. There is also another in our series of true stories. I think we
better start the programme so that we have enough time to fit everything in.
Aries, can you remember a sentence we practiced last week?
ARIES: Yes Ruth, I think I can. We looked at a polite way of speaking to an older
person, someone we wanted to respect. 'Would you mind if I left your
lecture five minutes earlier to catch the train?'
RUTH: Yes, that's right. We also looked at two other ways of asking permission
politely. They were, 'Do you mind if...?' and 'Is it alright if...?' In the
drama we heard Jim and Grace arguing about Grace's bike. Listen to how
she answers him.
RUTH: Aries, did you hear her reply?
ARIES: Yes, she said, 'I think I'll say no.'
RUTH: In speaking English politely, we don't just say 'no'. We can say, 'No,
please don't.' Or Grace could have said, "No, I don't want you to use my
bike." Talking to her brother, Grace was able to talk like that. If she
was talking to a friend, it would be a lot more polite to say. 'I'd rather
you didn't use my bike.' Aries, say that sentence after me. 'I'd rather
you didn't use my bike.'
ARIES: 'I'd rather you didn't use my bike.'
RUTH: In a classroom, a student might ask, 'May I smoke in the classroom?'
Your answer might be, 'No, please don't. It makes my eyes sore.' Say
the answer again with Aries after me. 'No, please don't. It makes my
ARIES: 'No, please don't. It makes my eyes sore.'
RUTH: You can also say, 'I'd rather you didn't.' In answering the question fully,
I'd say, 'I'd rather you didn't because we can't open the windows to let the
smoke out.' Aries, can you think of a sentence using 'I'd rather you
ARIES: 'I'd rather you didn't eat my sweets.'
RUTH: There is one other way of politely refusing permission and that is by saying,
'That's not a very good idea...' Let me put that in a sentence. 'That's not
a very good idea as my bike is broken.' Aries, say that sentence after me.
'That's not a very good idea as my bike is broken.'
ARIES: 'That's not a very good idea as my bike is broken.'
RUTH: We'll repeat these three ways of refusing politely again at the end of the
RUTH: In our true story today, Christopher is reading about a man who lives in
Uruguay, one of the countries of South America. The person isn't named.
This is because the man committed a murder, and was sent to prison.
Even in the desperate state of his life, by listening to the radio, he heard
about the love of the living God. This love is able to reach anyone,
'Coming home from work, I called to my wife as I came through the door. 'I'm
here, I'm home'. There was no reply. I called to my wife again, but again had no
reply. There was nobody in the house. I knew instantly where she had gone.
My wife had told me that she was in love with another man, so I'd forbidden her
from seeing him again. Coming home to this empty house, I realized that she had
gone - left me for another man. My anger rose, my temper took control. I picked
up a knife as I ran through my house. I was determined to kill my wife and her
lover. I broke down the door of his house in my rage. I ran around looking for
them. When I found them, I knifed first my wife and then her lover. Once they
were dead, I killed my children also as they slept. I then began to cut myself. I
also wanted to die. But a neighbor had alerted the police and as I lay wounded,
they arrived. I was taken to hospital.
When I was well enough, I was taken before a judge. 'You'll go to prison for the
rest of your life for what you did to your wife and family'. I knew his judgment
was fair. I deserved the punishment I'd been given.
I spend a lot of my time in prison listening to the radio. One day, I heard some
singing and as I listened, I heard a message about changing - changing from bad to
good, putting the wrong things in your life right. The speaker told of the person
'Jesus Christ', and how as God's only Son, he had come to this earth to die for my
sins. That was so wonderful to hear. My sins were great, but I knew God would
forgive me. I wrote to that radio station and told them that by listening to their
programmes, I'd found a new meaning to my broken world.
RUTH: It's hard to believe that even when lives are completely broken and there
seems no future, the living God can open a way.
RUTH: I promised we'll finish our programme today with more practice on polite
ways of refusing permission. I'll say them first, and then why don't you
say them again after me with Aries? 'No, please don't it. It hurts my
ARIES: 'No, please don't. It hurts my eyes.'
RUTH: 'I'd rather you didn't.'
ARIES: 'I'd rather you didn't.'
RUTH: 'That's not a very good idea.'
ARIES: 'That's not a very good idea.'
RUTH: Refusing to give permission to someone should always be spoken politely.
We don't have to give permission to people if we don't want to. Aries,
can you think of somewhere you could use these answers we've practiced
ARIES: At university, I am often asked by my friends if they can borrow my lecture
note. I don't mind doing it if they missed the lecture because of illness.
They need to catch up on what they missed. But I'm sad if they come not
prepared to work and then asked to borrow my pens. I had even been
asked to lend money to my friends. I don't like to say 'no' to my friends
but sometimes I have to. I might want to look at my lecture notes again
or I might not have the money to lend my friends.
RUTH: Next week on 'Say it Again', we are looking at ways of disagreeing with
friends. I enjoy hearing other people's ideas and I must admit I enjoy
talking with my friends. When we all disagree, they can be good
arguments. Next week, Grace and her brother Jim are enjoying
disagreeing about football. I hope you'll join Aries and me then. So for